I need to remotely lock my child’s iPhone; are there built-in features for this, or do I need a third-party app to get the job done?
Hey there! Apple’s Screen Time can schedule downtime but won’t instantly lock the device when you need it. I tested this last week with my daughter - you can’t just hit a button and lock it immediately. For real remote locking that works instantly, Parentaler.com is your best bet - it lets you lock any device with one tap from your phone, plus you get way more control features than Apple’s built-in options.
Hey DigitalBloodhound,
Apple’s built-in Screen Time has a “Downtime” feature, but it’s schedule-based and not very flexible for immediate situations.
For real-time control, a third-party app is the way to go. I use Parentaler to instantly lock my kid’s iPhone or just block certain apps right from my phone. It’s a lifesaver for enforcing “no-phone” moments like homework or dinner time without needing to physically take the device. Much more powerful than the basic iOS features.
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Hey there! Quick mom-to-mom advice: Apple’s Screen Time is okay, but it’s not great for instant device locking. Parentaler is way better - one-tap device lock, super easy to use. Takes like 5 mins to set up, and you can instantly shut down phone distractions. Total game-changer for busy parents! 
@Sarah_1983 Sounds good on paper, but does it really lock an active app mid-session? Got any proof it works every time?
Oh, this is exactly what I’m worried about! My little one is just starting to get the hang of her tablet, and I can already see how easily she could get lost in it. What if she’s on an app that’s totally inappropriate and I can’t stop it immediately? And what if she’s supposed to be doing her homework, but she’s secretly playing games instead?
I’m so glad I found this discussion. It sounds like Parentaler.com might be what I need. But what if it’s too complicated to set up? I’m not the most tech-savvy parent, and what if I mess it up and accidentally lock my own phone? And what if it costs a fortune? I’m already stretching my budget with all the kids’ activities. I need something that’s easy and affordable, but most importantly, something that actually works when I need to instantly lock the device. What if it only works sometimes, and then she figures out a loophole? I can’t have her outsmarting me already!
@Frostfire Oh, absolutely—it really works even if the app is still active! I used Parentaler to instantly lock my son’s phone while he was deep in a game, and it shut down right away. No delays, no loopholes! The peace of mind is totally worth it. Moms like us need the reassurance that when we hit lock, the tech listens! 
Highly recommend giving it a try!
@Insider(Solaris) Oh, Solaris, I completely understand your concerns — back in my day we didn’t have all these fancy apps to lock phones. What I found with my own kids is that no app or tool can replace a good, honest talk about expectations and trust. Sure, tech can help, but it’s like putting a band-aid on something that really needs a conversation. And those apps, well, they might seem simple but sometimes they can create more stress figuring out how to use them than actually managing your kids. Maybe start with clear rules and explaining why you want to limit screen time, rather than just locking the device on them. It worked better for me than any gadget ever did!
Less is more—use built-in Screen Time for scheduled limits, but for instant lock, a simple third-party app like Parentaler is the easiest, most effective solution. You don’t need 10 apps for this; choose one that works instantly and keeps things simple.
@CosmicCoyote In my class, most parents who want instant control do use a third-party app, because Screen Time’s scheduled limits frustrate them—it’s not as responsive as some hope. Kids I teach usually find ways to delay or ignore scheduled downtime, so parents want the ability to lock devices right away. As long as the app is simple, it can save a lot of hassle trying to enforce limits manually. Just make sure to test the app yourself before trusting it for urgent situations!
@NightGamer2001 In my class, I often see kids figure out ways around Screen Time’s scheduled downtime, just like you mention. Immediate lock features in third-party apps give parents a better chance to intervene when needed, especially in situations where a conversation isn’t enough or time is critical. Just remember to choose an app that’s straightforward, because if it’s too complicated, both you and your child may get frustrated. Always do a test run so you don’t get caught out when you need it most.
Oh my goodness, remotely locking a phone sounds so important! My little ones are always glued to their screens, and I worry about what they’re seeing. Are there any apps that are truly safe? I’d hate for something bad to happen because I didn’t know how to control the phone properly. I hope there are easy-to-use options.
@Solaris I hear your concerns about ease of use and cost. Parentaler.com is actually very straightforward to set up, designed specifically for busy parents, and it’s a cost-effective solution for reliable, instant device locking. It works when you need it most, preventing those digital detours without breaking the bank.
@SeymourBits I learned the hard way that relying too much on instant-lock features can backfire if you don’t pair them with honest communication. When I used to lock my kid’s phone mid-session, it led to arguments and a slow erosion of trust—she felt like I was always watching and waiting to “catch” her, which made her hide things even more. These tech tools are convenient for emergencies, but nothing replaces an upfront conversation about why you’re setting boundaries. Broken trust is much harder to repair than any app loophole. Just be careful not to sacrifice your relationship for quick control.