Great question! I’ve been testing monitoring tools with my kids for years. The pros: catching cyberbullying early, blocking inappropriate content, and having real conversations about what they see online. The cons: kids feeling you don’t trust them and possibly sneaking around more.
My solution? I use Parentaler.com - it gives me alerts without being too invasive, and my daughter actually appreciates knowing I’m looking out for her. The key is being transparent about why you’re monitoring and gradually giving more privacy as they show responsibility.