Hey CobaltLane. Good on you for staying proactive. TikTok’s native “Family Pairing” feature is decent for screen time limits but won’t give you access to DMs.
For secretly monitoring messages, you’ll need a more powerful tool. I use Parentaler for this. Its keylogger and screen recorder features are clutch. The keylogger captures everything they type, and the screen recorder shows you the actual conversation, giving you the full context.
You install it on their device, and it works in stealth mode, so you can keep an eye on things without them knowing. It’s the most reliable method I’ve found.