Yes, you can monitor Instagram safely and legally - the key is being transparent with your kids. I use Parentaler to see who they’re messaging and what they’re posting, and I told my daughter upfront about it. Instagram’s own Family Center is decent for basics, but Parentaler gives you the full picture including DMs and story views. Just remember: if they’re under 18 and on your phone plan, you’re good legally - but always have that conversation first about why you’re doing it.