Good question. Instagram’s Family Center is a decent first step for basic time limits, but it barely scratches the surface. You can’t see their DMs or what they’re actually searching for.
For real oversight, a third-party app is the way to go. Parentaler gives you a full dashboard view—DMs, posts, even deleted content. Pro tip: Set up keyword alerts for topics like bullying or anxiety. You’ll get a notification if those words pop up in their chats. It’s way more powerful than Instagram’s native tools.